Midlife Transits: Saturn Opposition

Saturn does his best work when he’s working on something long term.  At age 29 he makes his first return to his natal position where we first realize we are now real grown ups and start taking on more responsibility.  At 44, we have the mid-point of this cycle where we can evaluate how we are doing.  Welcome to the Saturn Opposition part of Midlife Crisis. 

At 28, I was the youngest department director in the pediatric hospital.  It was a dream come true.  I supervised 200 employees, an award winning program I built from scratch, and I was just beginning to date my future husband.  When he proposed at age 31, people thought I was crazy for giving up my career and moving across country.  But here I am at age 44, on the brink of my Saturn opposition looking back and I wouldn’t have changed a thing.  My career isn’t anywhere near what I thought it was going to be; its 100% better.  I even have a wonderful husband, two crazy kids, and a dog to boot.  But I had to risk it all to get everything I have. 

Saturn is our planet of hard earned rewards.  Managing Saturn takes true wisdom and it usually affects the areas of life where we are our most vulnerable.  Saturn will hold what Venus attracts.  He can also protect and put up boundaries, but be careful that those boundaries don’t isolate you.  Part of what we do in this transit is evaluate and make choices about what we are going to keep and what we are going to give up in order to pursue what we want in the long range.

For example, if we start to realize that we’ve sacrificed everything just to have a marriage, we might get rid of the marriage.  Or if we realize we’ve rejected every blind date because of exceedingly high criteria we might loosen the rigidity.  Often when we take a good hard look uncomfortable feelings come up.  I’ve had clients express fear of the future, guilt that they settled for being comfortable, inadequacy, rejection, or depression.  All of these feelings are normal.  It’s just part of us recommitting to our path and giving ourselves some grace moving forward.  When Saturn returns to its natal position at age 58, you will be glad you had a chance to check in and course-correct if needed.

Saturn oppositions require us to clarify our path and commit to our values.  It requires a choice between things.  And often it requires clarity and pairing down to what’s essential to success.

Transiting Saturn in the Houses

When Saturn is transiting your First House:  hold onto yourself, pay attention to your physical body, learn to say no to others, set goals that are focused on you.

When Saturn is transiting your Second House:  hold your money, spend less, budget.

When Saturn is transiting your Third House:  hold your tongue, you might have authority problems with siblings and close friends, learn and teach, try to commute less.

When Saturn is transiting your Fourth House:  go out less, mind your boundaries with your father by either being more open or saying no more often, you might have some problems with your home country’s politics, restructure your home or redecorate it.

When Saturn is transiting your Fifth House:  don’t gamble, restructure your love affairs, teach your child, reexamine the discipline of your children, work on your hobbies.

When Saturn is transiting your Sixth House:  keep the job you have, say no to this who serve or work for you, take care of your body, find specialists for the ailments you have.

When Saturn is transiting your Seventh House:  hold onto your identity in your partnership, this can either show that your partner is in trouble or he/she is the focus, restructure your duties and roles within the marriage.

When Saturn is transiting your Eighth House:  experience your loss/grief, restructure your resources to deal with your debt and taxes, do not take any loans, check on your partners finances, get your will and power of attorney in order.

When Saturn is transiting your Ninth House:  hold on to your guiding principles, restructure how you celebrate your faith, start therapy, journal about your dreams, begin going back to college.

When Saturn is transiting your Tenth House:  say no to fame or status, be true to your word, be mature, mind your boundaries with your mom by either being more open or say no more often with her, be mindful if promotions are just an elevation in title only.

When Saturn is transiting your Eleventh House:  pair down your friends or community involvement, say no and have less responsibility within organizations.

When Saturn is transiting your Twelfth House:  Saturn is in his Joy here, hold on to what makes you happy, take time for yourself, practice self-care.

Additional Resources:

Ilhan, Baris (2018) “ Saturn and Its Cohesive Powers.”  Lecture, UAC.  Chicago, Illinois.

Bell, Virginia (2017). “Midlife is not a crisis.” Weiser Books. Newburyport, MA.

Ruperti, Alexander (2005). Earthwalk Astrology Publishing.  Santa Monica, CA.

Midlife Transits: Neptune Square Neptune

There comes a point in midlife when you start to confront that dream of what your life was supposed to look like. Welcome to Neptune Square Neptune.

“The dream” took shape through many different influences.  It could’ve been your grandfather pressuring you to take on the family business.  It could have been that promise of a blank passport and a hope to have all the stamps of the world by the time you were 40.  It could have been the dream of the white picket fence you had idolized and the framed diplomas in the home office.  

At some point we take spiritual inventory not only to wonder how did I get here, but where did I get these ideas of where I should be and are these ideas and all the “shoulds” worth claiming as mine?  If they aren’t, then it’s time to clean house.  

This transit is a really an internal one, but you see it manifest in outward ways.  People start either reconnecting to family or distancing themselves.  They start going back to church or exploring spiritual rituals.  People start thinking of how to align their life with their values.  The topics hit are highlighted by the areas of their birth charts that are affected.

When people aren’t liking what they are seeing and don’t know what to do with this energy, you find the lower manifestation of Neptune.  It comes about through distraction or procrastination.  What can I escape into so I can avoid the real emotional work?  Social media?  Binge watching shows?  Alcohol?  Shopping?  Workaholic tendencies?

My Natal Neptune hangs out in my 3rd house of elementary education, communication, neighborhoods, and social community.  That square lit up those house topics like a Christmas tree!  We had an awful time trying to figure out if we should keep him in the neighborhood school or try for the charter STEM school.  I was worried about finding friends for both him and our family.  I was worried about his learning style.  And I was replaying the old tapes I had growing up when my family went back and forth between public and private education.  We finally decided to put our name into the ring and turn to something very off the beaten path of Feng Shui, as a spiritual practice (it was squaring my 12th house), to give ourselves the best chance, but let it go into the hands of the Universe. Long story short, he was accepted, and I opened my boundaries back up to astromagick, manifesting, and the power of intention.

When Neptune squares are done well you can see an integration with that person. They resolve the shoulds with what their souls desire. You can expect your Neptune Square to occur around 40-42 and it will last about 2 years.  Let me know if I can help you find when and where your Neptune square will be occurring in your chart.

For part one of my Midlife Transit Series, Go to Pluto Square Pluto.

Midlife Transits: Pluto Square Pluto

Pluto doesn’t get his due.  This poor guy at the edge of our solar system was a planet and then got demoted, but we astrologers still consider him very important.  He is the planet that represents power and transformation.  He is considered a generational planet as he moves so slowly.  But when and where you experience a transit from Pluto, it can be life-altering.

For example, he is a big part in the trio of transits that constitute that mid-life crisis.  Typically the first one that hits is Transit Neptune square Natal Neptune.  Second is this Transit Pluto square Natal Pluto.  And third is Transit Uranus Oppose Natal Uranus.  (When I say “Transit” that is astrologers-speak for what is going on in the sky right now.  “Natal” refers to what the sky looked like the day you were born.)

Somewhere between the ages of 36-60, Pluto moves across the sky to a 90 degree angle and squares the point where your natal Pluto was in your birth chart.  This is a major aspect that indicates a crisis point.  But it is important to remember that crisis doesn’t always mean breakdown, but can often mean breakthrough.  The symbol for “crisis” in Japanese means danger and opportunity.  This is a window to do something different.  

Mid-life is the perfect time to evaluate the question:  Is this what I want?  You have enough life experience and perspective to compare it to what you were born into, your roots, and the way your parents way of doing things.  And you have enough independence and gumption to change the path whether it is staying the course or changing your sails and switching direction.

Pluto’s square lasts around 12 – 18 months.  He moves slowly around the zodiac and so this is the BIG drama that he plays out in a lifetime.  He represents the source of your personal power and regeneration.  This is the time to really evaluate if something or someone is limiting your growth.  Typically it is something from your past that you were comfortable with.  And many times, it can be as simple as an innate belief.

For me, Pluto’s square hit me when I became pregnant and then a stay at home mom.  My natal Pluto is in my 10th house of career, which is where I identified myself.  What I did what synonymous with who I was.  When I gave up my public persona, the job titles, and the upward path I felt completely lost.  It was almost an 18 month journey before I became comfortable with telling people I stayed at home with my son vs. my long insecure soapbox about me taking a break from my career but I could go back because of my masters degrees yadda yadda yadda.  It was crazy.  I was that person people slowly backed away from at cocktail parties regretting they asked a simple question to start conversations flowing.  But by the end of the transit I was finally comfortable with myself and I released the old me.  

Below is a table that gives a rough guide to when you can expect this transit.

Birth Year Age

1940 45

1945 42

1950 50

1955 39

1960 37

1965 36

1970 36

1975 36

1980 38

1985 40

1990 43

1995 47

2000 51

2005 56

2010 61

2015 66

Like always, if you are interested in where Pluto is asking you to transform your life, please book a reading with me through my consultation page!