Midlife Transits: Neptune Square Neptune

There comes a point in midlife when you start to confront that dream of what your life was supposed to look like. Welcome to Neptune Square Neptune.

“The dream” took shape through many different influences.  It could’ve been your grandfather pressuring you to take on the family business.  It could have been that promise of a blank passport and a hope to have all the stamps of the world by the time you were 40.  It could have been the dream of the white picket fence you had idolized and the framed diplomas in the home office.  

At some point we take spiritual inventory not only to wonder how did I get here, but where did I get these ideas of where I should be and are these ideas and all the “shoulds” worth claiming as mine?  If they aren’t, then it’s time to clean house.  

This transit is a really an internal one, but you see it manifest in outward ways.  People start either reconnecting to family or distancing themselves.  They start going back to church or exploring spiritual rituals.  People start thinking of how to align their life with their values.  The topics hit are highlighted by the areas of their birth charts that are affected.

When people aren’t liking what they are seeing and don’t know what to do with this energy, you find the lower manifestation of Neptune.  It comes about through distraction or procrastination.  What can I escape into so I can avoid the real emotional work?  Social media?  Binge watching shows?  Alcohol?  Shopping?  Workaholic tendencies?

My Natal Neptune hangs out in my 3rd house of elementary education, communication, neighborhoods, and social community.  That square lit up those house topics like a Christmas tree!  We had an awful time trying to figure out if we should keep him in the neighborhood school or try for the charter STEM school.  I was worried about finding friends for both him and our family.  I was worried about his learning style.  And I was replaying the old tapes I had growing up when my family went back and forth between public and private education.  We finally decided to put our name into the ring and turn to something very off the beaten path of Feng Shui, as a spiritual practice (it was squaring my 12th house), to give ourselves the best chance, but let it go into the hands of the Universe. Long story short, he was accepted, and I opened my boundaries back up to astromagick, manifesting, and the power of intention.

When Neptune squares are done well you can see an integration with that person. They resolve the shoulds with what their souls desire. You can expect your Neptune Square to occur around 40-42 and it will last about 2 years.  Let me know if I can help you find when and where your Neptune square will be occurring in your chart.

For part one of my Midlife Transit Series, Go to Pluto Square Pluto.

Midlife Transits: Pluto Square Pluto

Pluto doesn’t get his due.  This poor guy at the edge of our solar system was a planet and then got demoted, but we astrologers still consider him very important.  He is the planet that represents power and transformation.  He is considered a generational planet as he moves so slowly.  But when and where you experience a transit from Pluto, it can be life-altering.

For example, he is a big part in the trio of transits that constitute that mid-life crisis.  Typically the first one that hits is Transit Neptune square Natal Neptune.  Second is this Transit Pluto square Natal Pluto.  And third is Transit Uranus Oppose Natal Uranus.  (When I say “Transit” that is astrologers-speak for what is going on in the sky right now.  “Natal” refers to what the sky looked like the day you were born.)

Somewhere between the ages of 36-60, Pluto moves across the sky to a 90 degree angle and squares the point where your natal Pluto was in your birth chart.  This is a major aspect that indicates a crisis point.  But it is important to remember that crisis doesn’t always mean breakdown, but can often mean breakthrough.  The symbol for “crisis” in Japanese means danger and opportunity.  This is a window to do something different.  

Mid-life is the perfect time to evaluate the question:  Is this what I want?  You have enough life experience and perspective to compare it to what you were born into, your roots, and the way your parents way of doing things.  And you have enough independence and gumption to change the path whether it is staying the course or changing your sails and switching direction.

Pluto’s square lasts around 12 – 18 months.  He moves slowly around the zodiac and so this is the BIG drama that he plays out in a lifetime.  He represents the source of your personal power and regeneration.  This is the time to really evaluate if something or someone is limiting your growth.  Typically it is something from your past that you were comfortable with.  And many times, it can be as simple as an innate belief.

For me, Pluto’s square hit me when I became pregnant and then a stay at home mom.  My natal Pluto is in my 10th house of career, which is where I identified myself.  What I did what synonymous with who I was.  When I gave up my public persona, the job titles, and the upward path I felt completely lost.  It was almost an 18 month journey before I became comfortable with telling people I stayed at home with my son vs. my long insecure soapbox about me taking a break from my career but I could go back because of my masters degrees yadda yadda yadda.  It was crazy.  I was that person people slowly backed away from at cocktail parties regretting they asked a simple question to start conversations flowing.  But by the end of the transit I was finally comfortable with myself and I released the old me.  

Below is a table that gives a rough guide to when you can expect this transit.

Birth Year Age

1940 45

1945 42

1950 50

1955 39

1960 37

1965 36

1970 36

1975 36

1980 38

1985 40

1990 43

1995 47

2000 51

2005 56

2010 61

2015 66

Like always, if you are interested in where Pluto is asking you to transform your life, please book a reading with me through my consultation page!

Uranus Square Mars

Let’s get into the nitty gritty, shall we?

2018 has been colored with a few points of frustration.  There have been multiple planets retrograding and then there is the Uranus square Mars aspect.

Mars takes about 2.5 years to go around the solar system completely.  But what makes 2018 a bit more of a stand out year is that it toiled across Uranus not once, not twice, but THREE times in a matter of a few months.  This is because it was traveling direct when it crossed paths with Uranus  about May 16th at 2:18 AM (CDT) in North America.  Then Mars went retrograde and hit Uranus square a second time on August 1st at 9:30 PM (CDT) in North America.  Then it turned direct once more and pushed its way forward squaring Uranus for the third time on September 17th at 5:44 PM (CDT) in North America.  That’s a lot of unexpected energy folks!

Uranus is the planet of unexpected change and surprises.  It is an outer planet, meaning that it usually brings change from outside forces vs. internal revolution.  Something happens to us vs. us acting on our environment.  Mars is the planet of motivation, action, aggression, and will.  It is an inner planet so think of things like internal drive.  When you combine these forces you have a crisis point, which ultimately is what squares are all about.

Any aspect, (like a square, trine, conjunction, or opposition), just describes the relationship between the planets.  So think of a dinner party for example.  There are some people that are just annoying.  That, my friends, is the energy of a square.  And sometimes you run into these annoying people over and over again which is exactly what happened with Uranus and Mars in May, August, and September.

There are times when these transits can manifest as literal experiences.  Just this morning, my friend called me in a panic to help her run carpool because her car stopped working and all the warning lights came on.  Hello, Mars (driving to work/school), and Uranus (unexpected) and square (annoyance).  I just about spit out my coffee when I realized the manifestation of this transit.

Other times the transits can be subtle patterns.  Like that little urge to rebel against work, thus “sticking it to the man,” or the “out of the blue” aggressive comment that you didn’t see coming from a friend.  It could be that your workout got disrupted. It could even be something like a physical injury.  All of these are Mars/Uranus themes.  They aren’t going to be hard lasting changes, but more like small disruptions.  Think back to the other dates and see what similar themes or patterns emerge.  People are like, “Psshh, workouts have nothing to do with my car.”  One critique of astrology is that it is too vague.  Oh, boy, NOT when you know your birth data and you can pin point exactly what realms are getting hit.  That is EXACTLY why you need a professional astrologer.

While the energy can be similar, the one thing that is unique is what areas in your personal chart the aspects hitting.  Is it hitting your secrets and career areas?  What about your siblings and self identity?  If you are finding this information to be a bit more of an ah-ha moment and want more insight, hit me up.  It might be worth a reading to see what topics are lit up and what innovations will be integrated into your life as you move forward.