Midlife Transits: Saturn Opposition

Saturn does his best work when he’s working on something long term.  At age 29 he makes his first return to his natal position where we first realize we are now real grown ups and start taking on more responsibility.  At 44, we have the mid-point of this cycle where we can evaluate how we are doing.  Welcome to the Saturn Opposition part of Midlife Crisis. 

At 28, I was the youngest department director in the pediatric hospital.  It was a dream come true.  I supervised 200 employees, an award winning program I built from scratch, and I was just beginning to date my future husband.  When he proposed at age 31, people thought I was crazy for giving up my career and moving across country.  But here I am at age 44, on the brink of my Saturn opposition looking back and I wouldn’t have changed a thing.  My career isn’t anywhere near what I thought it was going to be; its 100% better.  I even have a wonderful husband, two crazy kids, and a dog to boot.  But I had to risk it all to get everything I have. 

Saturn is our planet of hard earned rewards.  Managing Saturn takes true wisdom and it usually affects the areas of life where we are our most vulnerable.  Saturn will hold what Venus attracts.  He can also protect and put up boundaries, but be careful that those boundaries don’t isolate you.  Part of what we do in this transit is evaluate and make choices about what we are going to keep and what we are going to give up in order to pursue what we want in the long range.

For example, if we start to realize that we’ve sacrificed everything just to have a marriage, we might get rid of the marriage.  Or if we realize we’ve rejected every blind date because of exceedingly high criteria we might loosen the rigidity.  Often when we take a good hard look uncomfortable feelings come up.  I’ve had clients express fear of the future, guilt that they settled for being comfortable, inadequacy, rejection, or depression.  All of these feelings are normal.  It’s just part of us recommitting to our path and giving ourselves some grace moving forward.  When Saturn returns to its natal position at age 58, you will be glad you had a chance to check in and course-correct if needed.

Saturn oppositions require us to clarify our path and commit to our values.  It requires a choice between things.  And often it requires clarity and pairing down to what’s essential to success.

Transiting Saturn in the Houses

When Saturn is transiting your First House:  hold onto yourself, pay attention to your physical body, learn to say no to others, set goals that are focused on you.

When Saturn is transiting your Second House:  hold your money, spend less, budget.

When Saturn is transiting your Third House:  hold your tongue, you might have authority problems with siblings and close friends, learn and teach, try to commute less.

When Saturn is transiting your Fourth House:  go out less, mind your boundaries with your father by either being more open or saying no more often, you might have some problems with your home country’s politics, restructure your home or redecorate it.

When Saturn is transiting your Fifth House:  don’t gamble, restructure your love affairs, teach your child, reexamine the discipline of your children, work on your hobbies.

When Saturn is transiting your Sixth House:  keep the job you have, say no to this who serve or work for you, take care of your body, find specialists for the ailments you have.

When Saturn is transiting your Seventh House:  hold onto your identity in your partnership, this can either show that your partner is in trouble or he/she is the focus, restructure your duties and roles within the marriage.

When Saturn is transiting your Eighth House:  experience your loss/grief, restructure your resources to deal with your debt and taxes, do not take any loans, check on your partners finances, get your will and power of attorney in order.

When Saturn is transiting your Ninth House:  hold on to your guiding principles, restructure how you celebrate your faith, start therapy, journal about your dreams, begin going back to college.

When Saturn is transiting your Tenth House:  say no to fame or status, be true to your word, be mature, mind your boundaries with your mom by either being more open or say no more often with her, be mindful if promotions are just an elevation in title only.

When Saturn is transiting your Eleventh House:  pair down your friends or community involvement, say no and have less responsibility within organizations.

When Saturn is transiting your Twelfth House:  Saturn is in his Joy here, hold on to what makes you happy, take time for yourself, practice self-care.

Additional Resources:

Ilhan, Baris (2018) “ Saturn and Its Cohesive Powers.”  Lecture, UAC.  Chicago, Illinois.

Bell, Virginia (2017). “Midlife is not a crisis.” Weiser Books. Newburyport, MA.

Ruperti, Alexander (2005). Earthwalk Astrology Publishing.  Santa Monica, CA.

Going Deep with Mercury in Scorpio

Let’s spend some time talking about Mercury in Scorpio, shall we?  Normally this quick moving planet of communication and commerce spends on average about 30 days in each sign.  But this month he moved into Scorpio on October 4th and is staying there until December 1st.  I’d say it’s high time for us to get to know this energy. 

Deep Thinker, Deep Communicator

The nature of Mercury deals with our mental power and how we communicate.  He is the electricity between our nerve synapses and the magnetic flow that keeps our compass pointing North.  Mercury stands for our mind and our intellect.  It’s how we decide and show our understanding.  

Mercury in Water signs (Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio) reacts to emotional situations and feels comfortable when feelings are expressed.  This planet digs deep into the emotional caverns of what hasn’t been explored in a long time.  Mercury in Scorpio is a sharp thinker and will answer questions with better questions.  He can either drown people with too much information like a raging river when he wants a connection, or will dry up the well and sting when trying to evade.

Retrograde = Series of 3!

The reason why Mercury is hanging out in Scorpio for so long is because he’s going turn retrograde on Halloween for about 3 weeks.  Once he stations direct and goes forward again he has to retread all that old ground he already covered.  What does that mean for us?  Well, we will probably encounter a Series of 3.  Events of a similar nature are going to unfold for you like sequels of a movie 3x.  As the planet grinds back and forth (direct – retrograde – direct), we get the same transit 3x.

When this transit is occurring, expect longer conversations about harder and previously hidden topics. And remember that Series of 3 retrograde maneuver?  Watch for it on October 25th, November 10th, and again on December 3rd when Mercury will be in a sextile to Pluto in Capricorn.  Pluto likes to transform the conversation and bring out what’s private so that’s going to be the theme of that trilogy. Keep your eye out for uncovered truths.  Things will not go back to how they were.

Midlife Transits: Neptune Square Neptune

There comes a point in midlife when you start to confront that dream of what your life was supposed to look like. Welcome to Neptune Square Neptune.

“The dream” took shape through many different influences.  It could’ve been your grandfather pressuring you to take on the family business.  It could have been that promise of a blank passport and a hope to have all the stamps of the world by the time you were 40.  It could have been the dream of the white picket fence you had idolized and the framed diplomas in the home office.  

At some point we take spiritual inventory not only to wonder how did I get here, but where did I get these ideas of where I should be and are these ideas and all the “shoulds” worth claiming as mine?  If they aren’t, then it’s time to clean house.  

This transit is a really an internal one, but you see it manifest in outward ways.  People start either reconnecting to family or distancing themselves.  They start going back to church or exploring spiritual rituals.  People start thinking of how to align their life with their values.  The topics hit are highlighted by the areas of their birth charts that are affected.

When people aren’t liking what they are seeing and don’t know what to do with this energy, you find the lower manifestation of Neptune.  It comes about through distraction or procrastination.  What can I escape into so I can avoid the real emotional work?  Social media?  Binge watching shows?  Alcohol?  Shopping?  Workaholic tendencies?

My Natal Neptune hangs out in my 3rd house of elementary education, communication, neighborhoods, and social community.  That square lit up those house topics like a Christmas tree!  We had an awful time trying to figure out if we should keep him in the neighborhood school or try for the charter STEM school.  I was worried about finding friends for both him and our family.  I was worried about his learning style.  And I was replaying the old tapes I had growing up when my family went back and forth between public and private education.  We finally decided to put our name into the ring and turn to something very off the beaten path of Feng Shui, as a spiritual practice (it was squaring my 12th house), to give ourselves the best chance, but let it go into the hands of the Universe. Long story short, he was accepted, and I opened my boundaries back up to astromagick, manifesting, and the power of intention.

When Neptune squares are done well you can see an integration with that person. They resolve the shoulds with what their souls desire. You can expect your Neptune Square to occur around 40-42 and it will last about 2 years.  Let me know if I can help you find when and where your Neptune square will be occurring in your chart.

For part one of my Midlife Transit Series, Go to Pluto Square Pluto.